10 comments on “Trimming the hedges and man-scaping

  1. I think I used the word "fan" a few too many times. And Hollywood is all off, vs. Brazilian which leaves a little something (could be landing strip, for example).

  2. N.,   My preference is that both my partner and I be neatly trimmed, though it's not a dealbreaker if he's not.  I'm with Liza on the difficulties and perils of waxing, and also on how much more pleasant trimmed is than a "full bush".     Here's a quote from a short story by Amy Bloom that pretty much sums it up:“…shetold him that she’d heard that young men shaved their balls now.  Ray lifted his head and asked if she wouldlike that.  I guess I would, she said.  Is it unpleasant otherwise? Ray said.  Oh, I don’t know, Ellie said.  It’s like a mouthful of wet mittens – what doyouthink?”  🙂    

  3. Let me clarify: my "no way" was in relation to male waxing… as far as I'm concerned, totally bald men belong in the domain of porn videos and nowhere else. For women, some trimming and waxing feels appropriate, but having done the full Hollywood, I'm not keen to do it again – all I see when I look down is Barbie.I'm fairly amazed at the difference between the two pictures you posted… Not only is there a difference in hair, but also tan lines, breast size, nipple size and the degree of grooming. The woman in the later picture looks more relaxed and also more boyish than the earlier picture. The earlier picture looks just more… womanly. It's difficult to tell how much the hair is an element with so many other factors uncontrolled.I wonder how much of this is due to gender relations – depsite so many male porn stars being waxed, the style hasn't taken off in the same way as it has for women. I wonder whether we secretly like to play up our gender differences (in this case, men are hairy and women aren't) when our clothes are off?

  4. Great post!!!I like men to be neatly trimmed if only from the perspective of it being easier to give blowjobs.  Otherwise, you get hair in your eyes, your nose, your teeth, etc etc etc.  I would imagine that this goes for men when is comes to women as well.I totally agree with you on the completely bald thing though.  It seems too similar to a child for my comfort.

  5. Sure – trimmed hair is ideal from a textural perspective – no stubble, no floss. But it would never occur to me to seek to maximize my comfort by directing someone else's style. Unless I was directing their style. (If I get to dress you, then I get to tell you how to coiffe your cunt.)

  6. A wise man once said to me that men like silicone, like exaggerated female characteristics, because it medicates their fear of mistakenly being attracted to a man.  I'll write more about breasts in a later post.  But I think a little dissection of ascendant porn stars would be interesting.And then there's Sasha Grey and James Deen – the two porn stars (one now retired) who deviate most from the norm, and who in doing so, I think, point to much of what is interesting about our collective desire as reflected by porn.One last thought:  I think (don't know, but do think) that you're wrong about men shaving their pubes.  I think, based on minimal observation – at the gym, and at a few parties – that men are starting to shave too….

  7. Yea!  Happy happy HAPPY to see this.  My husband and playmate both would be quite happy to see me bare down there, and the more I've thought about it, the more adverse I am to the idea.  Unfortunately, I also look around and see so many expectations for it (apparently it is standard for many swingers, for example), and just get more depressed.I remember being pleased when my pubic hair came in.  I felt more grown up, more mature.  When I see pictures of naked genitals, I just think they look immature, fake, or both.  Sure, I appreciate a nice trim for the sake of easier oral performance, and I even do bikini wax (and wax some other areas) and actually find that comfortable, but I do not want to be completely hairless, or for my partners to be, either.

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